Can cousins of cousin date each other?

Life is not a bed of roses, that it has its ups and downs and more unexpected twists. Relationships in life can be really complicated!



So can cousins of cousin who are not blood related date each other? A tough question to answer right? Life can be a muse, a mess or confusion. Something that I have no answer to as well. So it is really getting more complicated than one has thought, it sounded like a drama or even a novel.



What a mess I am getting myself into! All thanks to my really brilliant cousin and his so-called good idea. I was back home for a while, helping out at another cousin's company, been arrowed to sing during this brilliant cousin's wedding and helping out in the planning and also I was like involved in helping the couple out including the best man and bridemaid. And most of the time the scrapegoat where the best man has an excuse to use not to send the bridemaid back ...



So there goes the complication! I know the best man since young, cousin of my cousin (the one got married) and so got drag into this really complicated relationship. Should this relationship continue or should it end?



I am not sure how everything begins or how I got myself into this. Like what my cousin said, "the little ugly duckling and crybaby has turned into a very independent and confident swan." Yeap, alot of things happened in my life that I was forced to grow-up and I learnt to care for those around me more and learnt to look outward instead of inward (self).



Being organised, independent and confident since I know that I have to depend alot on myself when I am away from home. Nevertheless, God has been my pillar of strength and my refuge in time of needs. I think what I have encounter cannot be written as a novel or even drama who would thought it would happened in a short 6 months of my life before I entered into another phrase of my life in another country pursuing my dream and proving myself.

Will talk more about it another time, need to go for lunch now and get back to more work!

Busy, busy and busy...

Life has been really very busy and tons and tons of reading and a lot of thinking and planning for my research area. More responsibility as the supervisors are now more like facilitators and they will just provide guidance.

It gets more confused after each discussions about my plan and research proposal and more readings were given as we need a concrete plan and the steps involve are critical. Well, I hardly have time for much stuff except reading God's word and more work involved.

Attended My Cousin's Wedding...

My cousin's wedding day, we marked the end of the bachelorhood for one of my most brilliant cousins who had always claimed that he was going to stay single all his life till a remarkable lady changed his mind. We were blackmailing him for more ang po money if not we were all gang up to hide his wedding bouquet and wedding bands. It was fun to tease this brilliant guy and he was nice to play along with us.

It was a simple and nice wedding reception in church after the solemn pledge of love and signing of the marriage certificate. And here my cousin and his new bride would start off another chapter of their lives together as one, "to love, to cherish, for health, for sickness, till death do us part." My aunt was heard telling the relatives and friends that she had finally completed her own role as a mother and from now on, my cousin as the head of the his own family together with his wife and Christ leading.

At the wedding, I met some of my old churchmates from my mum's church and also my other cousins' girlfriends and boyfriends. It was nice to see all of them during the dinner and also to know that more wedding are coming up the next couple of years. As usual, some aunties would be asking. "Why didn't you bring your boyfriend? Faster get yourself a boyfriend, you are already 21."

Am I anxious to get attached and be in a relationship? I know for sure right now is not the right time and I am not anxious as I believe that God has prepared someone for me somewhere out there and when I have prepared myself to be a better person, naturally this person would be there for me.

Somewhere Out There
written by James Horner, Barry Mann, Cynthia Weil

Somewhere out there beneath the pale moonlight
Someone's thinking of me and loving me tonight
Somewhere out there someone's saying a prayer
That we'll find one another in that big somewhere out there

And even though I know how very far apart we are
It helps to think we might be wishing on the same bright star
And when the night wind starts to sing a lonesome lullaby
It helps to think we're sleeping underneath the same big sky

Somewhere out there if love can see us through
Then we'll be together somewhere out there
Out where dreams come true

And even though I know how very far apart we are
It helps to think we might be wishing on the same bright star
And when the night wind starts to sing a lonesome lullaby
It helps to think we're sleeping underneath the same big sky

Somewhere out there if love can see us through
Then we'll be together somewhere out there
Out where dreams come true

A New Chapter of My Life...

Being back home for slightly more than six months, I was somehow reluctant to uproot myself to go chase after my dreams and my ambition. Yet, a part of me knows that unless I stretch myself to my limit and prove to myself that I can achieve what I have set out to do, my heart will always have the longing to complete it. I believe it must be hard for my mum to welcome back her youngest child and then at the winks of the eyelids, half a year had passed us by that she was to send me off away to a foreign land but this time round, she was glad that I am just about 8 hours from home and of course, a couple of the church members' children are in the same university that I am going.

Being back in church, being involve in organising and helping to set up the membership database and the young working adults, life was very fulfilling and also making new friends. There is quite a bit of changes in church, alot of new faces and some familiar faces are not around anymore. Needless to say, the first couple of weeks, I had this jerky feeling. As time passed by, the passion and love for the Lord see me through my service in church. Remember my church pastor and a uncle insisted that I must be there on the day I was flying off since they were going to pray and send me off.

This time round, there was no emotional standoff at the airport, my mum just reminded me to take good care of myself and told me that they should be visiting either in spring or summer if time permit. And here I started my new journey of learning, Xuan had promised to house me for 2-3 weeks in her apartment till I find my own apartment.

It was a new beginning and a new environment that I had to get used to in a short time and settled down for classes, seminars and tons of reading to prepare me for the area of research that I was planning to work.

The first 2-3 weeks were the worst as rental property market here is tight and lots of people were renting as the interest rate for buying property is very high at 8.5 to 9.5%. For every open house, there were at least 30 people viewing. Thank you, Xuan and Sean who took the effort to accompany me to view the property and also to think of strategies to secure a unit.

Finally, found my home sweet home here.

It's a long time since I came in here...

It's been a while since I am home, it's so nice to be home. And of course, all the yummy food that my mum has prepared for me. Being able to catch up with all my cousins and close friends.

Love the feeling of been home and being close to all my loved ones. It was a shocking experience during the first week home, the whole mall near home was so congested and crowded with people which made me rather spent time at home. I hate crowds and never enjoy shopping in crowded area. So I spent most of my first week lazing around at home and the rest of the few months working on projects for my cousin.

Working life was as hectic as my student life with lots of deadline to meet and nevertheless, I managed to squeeze out time to go around Singapore. Looking at the familiar and not so familiar places as Singapore has changed quite a bit during my two years away from home.

Alot of developments are taking root in this small tropical island and many old buildings had been demolished to make way for new and tall skycrappers. And it gave a different feel to the familiar places.

And another three to four years away, I think I will be lost in this tropical island.